February 19

Do you remember when you were a kid, and you could get those teeny-tiny sponge capsules, plop them in water, and they would get huge?

Well, last night I dreamed I invented sponge shoes.   Sponge tennis shoes, flip flops, and heels.

You could wear them anywhere.

You could mop the floor with your shoes.

You could keep several new pair of shoes in your purse, and change them in the blink of an eye.

Women bought them by the capsule full.

I became a millionaire.

The end.


What I really wanted to blog about was the girl and her food allergies.

If you are looking for something funny…go away.

If you are looking for boring information and a few chuckles…keep reading.


In January of 2007, the girl became ill.

We had no clue what was wrong with her.

We got acquainted with many different doctors, specialists, hospitals, and medical bills.

We did not get acquainted with answers.

Her gall bladder was  removed that July.   It helped some, but didn’t fix the problem

No one knew what was wrong with her,  I just knew that she was hurting, and I couldn’t help her.

I was almost going insane trying to get answers.

Finally, Sister suggested that we have her tested for Delayed Food Allergies.

So we did.


Answers abounded!


Delayed Food allergies as defined by blah..blah…blah…doctors say this…

“A food allergy develops when your immune system, by means of an odd mixture of immune cells, antibodies and chemical mediators, reacts in an attempt to reject a food  in your diet. “

and ….

“The allergic symptoms in immune reactions are delayed in onset, appearing anywhere from within two hours up to several days after consuming allergic foods (Example: migraine headaches characteristically first appear 48 hours after allergic foods are eaten).  Delayed food reactions may come from any organ or tissue in the human body, blah…blah….blah…


“Immediate food allergy involves foods that are rarely eaten. Unfortunately, delayed food allergy involves commonly eaten foods, foods that you eat every day and may even crave. “

“Hidden and delayed food/allergies contribute or cause hundreds of health conditions and symptoms, that tend to be chronic and recurrent, and affect multiple bodily systems, such as:

Digestive (bloating, constipation, cramping, Crohn’s, colic, diarrhea, IBS, nausea/vomiting);

Immune System (autoimmune, chronic infections, recurrent ear infections);

Musculoskeletal (arthritis, feeling “below par,” weakness, joint and muscle pain);

Neurovascular (Meniere’s, migraines);

Nervous system (ADHD, children’s mood and behavioral problems, depression, headache, learning difficulties, mood swings);

Skin (acne, canker sores, eczema, hives, itching, psoriasis, rashes);

Systemic symptoms and conditions (bed-wetting, chronic fatigue, insomnia, multiple chemical sensitivity, obesity, PMS, water retention, weight gain/loss) and many others symptoms and conditions are caused or worsened by delayed and hidden food allergies/sensitivities!”

Most food allergies/sensitivities are acquired throughout life due to: a lack of variety in the diet (the average American eats only 19 foods on an ongoing basis), poor digestion and poor detoxification; genetics also plays a role.  Many people with multiple food allergies have “leaky gut syndrome,” which means that foods (especially proteins), are not being broken down effectively, and once absorbed, an increased immune reaction results.  Healing the gut lining is the priority.

*the things I have highlighted in red is how the girl suffers

I found out just the other day, that my dad’s mom had Celiacs later on in her life, her sister had it, and so does her nephew(Cousin Jerry’s mom and brother).

Sister suffers from delayed food allergies, and so many more of those symptoms mentioned above.

My poor girl.

Because delayed food allergies come from being allergic to the proteins in the food, you really shouldn’t eat the same foods every day, but rotate them so that the body doesn’t reject the foods that you can eat.

So!   This is what my girl can eat.

This is it.

She is allergic to everything else.

She just can’t go spend the night with anyone with out tons of preparation~~read, I must make all her food for her before hand.

We can’t go out to eat, because she just sits there and watches us.   Tortured.

Holidays are a nightmare for her.

I read a blog called Karina’s Kitchen~Recipes from a Gluten Free Goddess.    She made a post right before Thanksgiving that struck a chord in the girl and I.

She said…

A week from today is a big day. The Big T. Thanksgiving. And nothing sends shivers of trepidation up a gluten-free or casein-free girl’s spine like the mental image of mounds of Grandma’s sage pungent dressing or slabs of Aunt Ida’s pumpkin pie. It’s a butter and wheat flour infused gorge fest with danger at every turn.

If you’re lucky- your family is tuned in and aware of the angst and anxiety food centric holidays can trigger. They are thoughtful and well schooled in where gluten lurks or hides (some turkey broths and marinades, gravies and spice blends, stuffing and pie crusts) and don’t ask questions like, You can eat whole wheat crackers, right? (with the emphasis on the word whole as if somehow, the word itself makes the wheat magically safe to consume).

And if they don’t indulge in meta messages and all that spooky passive-aggressive weirdness they won’t sigh when you politely decline a slice of Bunny’s pecan pie and say, Just don’t eat the crust. They won’t hold up a pitcher of gravy and whisper, A little bit won’t kill you. I’m allergic to milk- and I cheat, then you, Dear Reader, have much to be thankful for.

You’re blessed with a clan that gets you, honestly loves you without judging you, and cares about every morsel that enters your fragile universe.

Fortunately, my family gets it.


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22 thoughts on “February 19”

  1. Oh my…I can’t even imagine. I think it’s so ironic how God put your family together…you and your DS that love to cook and your poor, sweet DD that can’t eat hardly anything! What an interesting combination. There must be so many challenges. Like I said, I can’t even imagine. (((hugs))) to you all.

  2. My brother has the same thing. He’s discovered alot of new products that weren’t available to Mom and Aunt Doris. Unless the product is listed as gluten free, it can’t be trusted no matter what it is. Many additives cause food reactions. Everything has to be fixed fresh, so, he can’t buy pre-packaged food of any kind. He said he found a pasta that he likes better than regular pasta. I don’t know what it’s made of. He would probably like to hear some of the things you’ve discovered.

  3. First of all – we have got to do something about those freaky dreams! So Hubs is doing better sleeping on your side, so you can’t just switch back. What if you put some kind of pad on your side. They have those memory foam things – I slept on one at an overnight at a friend’s and it was delish. Freak dreams are funny to read about on your blog, but I’d hate it for you if they continue.

    Your poor girl – that is rough! This WILL make her a stronger person and she will perservere. Hang in there Mom.

  4. Please give the girl a hug for me. She is such a sweetie, I wish she didn’t have to struggle with this trial.

    I’m going to have my mom check out your post. This sounds a lot like her. She is 82, and over time she has found out which foods she can eat. Thanks for sharing the info.

  5. We have a friend who is allergic to almost all foods, so when we go out there is research to see which resteraunt will have the foods she can eat. There are a few and we enjoy trying the different foods that are out there. When they come over we watch what is put out for snacks and drinks. It is a wonder to see how many people this effects, she didn’t know how many others were out there and is enjoying getting to know people that suffer along with her.

  6. Some of the hardest stuff to deal with, is the “craving.” For instance today, I’m craving something sweet/bready. I guess ya just have to suck it up and deal with it. Have a great day y’all.

    P.S. Hey grams, check out my blog when you get the chance. I think that you will like it. It’s on asubject that we both relate well to. I♥u.

  7. We get it too:( We are blessed that they can cheat a little but it results in migraines, horrible skin rashes and sinus problems. It is a costly physically for them to cheat and it wouldn’t sound minor to people if they dealt with it for a few days. My family is pretty understanding about it so I am blessed there as well. I think it is hardest in social settings where you are just getting to know people.

  8. Hiya – very sorry to hear of this diet problem. If you haven’t found them yet, both Glutten Free Girl and A Year of CrockPotting both have tons of gluten free recipes. Girl has a ton of recipes using glutten free flowers for baking, too.

    Good luck

  9. Cousin Jerry, which brother has it?

    Chip, I will check out your blog.

    CC I too would suggest you change sides, but your dreams are too funny and I like to hear about them.

    It is truly hardest on the ones who have allergies, but it is hard on the family as well on holidays known for goodies. You feel bad if you have things they can’t have, since you know it’s hard on them, you feel guilty if you don’t cook things the others like because its tradition. This year we tried to fix mostly what the ones with allergies good have and doctored up the same things for those without allergies. We did have the desserts though. CC fixed dessert the ones with allergies could have.

    We are still working on it.

    CC you are very dear to always work so hard on the health of your family. A little birdie told me you need to see the doctor. Please don’t be so busy taking care of others that you forget to take care of yourself.

    We want to have you around for a long long time. Please make an appointment and see to see the doctor. We love you and want you healthy too.

  10. I am so sorry that your precious girl suffers with this condition. I wonder if you ever visit La Tea Dah at Gracious Hospitality. She has so many wonderful gluten free recipes. I think that her son has a similar condition. Is this something that with time will improve?

  11. If your mom says you need to see a doctor, you probably do! So do it. Don’t be like me. My head would be reeling from dealing with her allergies. You sound like you got a handle on it. Keep up the good work. Hugs and kisses.

  12. (I’m a stranger commenting but I really love your blog) I’m so sorry to hear about this! What a life changer-but at least you know now and can move forward proactively instead of on the defense all the time…
    And “you could mop the floor with your shoes”-very funny. They actually sell slippers like that on Amazon and when I saw them I laughed so hard I cried. It was cathartic. Just for fun you should go look at the picture. They are dust mop slippers. They won’t fit in a purse though, unless it’s really big.

  13. I feel her pain! I’m allergic to soy and I tell you SOY IS IN EVERY THING out there so my diet looks very similar to hers. She’ll feel better, I know I do without it but it is a tough road and I am sorry. 😦

  14. I’m also a stranger but have enjoyed reading your blog for a couple of months.

    I understand what it’s like to be a mom with a child with allergies. Just be grateful Girl isn’t also autistic. Food alleriges seem to go along with autism and they really make my son’s autism go through the roof! Looking at Girl’s menu–she could never eat at my house–we can’t have chicken or pork. Also no corn but wheat is fine.

    I’ve heard of people allergic to just about everything including cinnamon, coconut, being deathly allergic to all fruits, and the minutest traces of peanuts.

  15. I get it. My sister is allergic to everything! She subscribes to a magazine called “Living Without”. It has helped her with some things that she can eat. Thanksgiving was tough, but we had things that she could eat. My nieces also have food allergies. My sister has horrible pain if she eats anything that she can’t. It makes her crazy when people say “Oh, I bet you can have just a little.” She has quit eating out. Is your daughter allergic to rice? My sister drinks Hemp milk. It is kind of expensive, but sometimes she just needs to add a little milk to something and that has been OK for her.

  16. Tressa~no, she isn’t allergic to rice, but she is allergic to safflower, and rice milk has safflower oil in it.

    I have considered Hemp milk, but was told that it has a ‘bold’ flavor.

  17. That’s interested about delayed food allergies. I’m so glad you figured it out.

    It’s crazy how difficult it is to diagnose digestive issues.

    Sometimes one food affects another food, so if she stops eating gluten maybe she can eat other foods later on. I was completely surprised when my doctor told me I have a parasite (after doctors were trying to determined IBS/IBD blah blah blah).

  18. My DD was diagnosed with all kinds of food allergies last summer. Wheat, soy, dairy, eggs, peanuts, and a few others I can’t think of right now. It’s been a struggle for her as she is 21 and a struggle for the family as well. It doesn’t help that her attitude stinks about it. Mostly, she just doesn’t eat unless I make something for her. We did find though when we did her elimination diet that the worst offenders were wheat and dairy. The others she can tolerate in small doses. I continue to try new recipes and some aren’t so bad but others are only worthy of a trip to the garbage can…anyway, I feel for your daughter and your family. There are some great blogs out there that are a big help! Couldn’t do it without them.

    Good Luck!

  19. There’s actually a board that specializes in eating a traditional diet, but the woman who runs the board is both gluten and casein free, so her recipes can be adapted and she has a number of recipes that all already adjusted – including a complete Thanksgiving meal.

    The board is linked on the side of my blog.

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